The boring thread.....

[Mups]

I went to where he works last Dec, since I needed to order something anyway.  It was a week before my op, and I wanted to be sure he was ok (who knows eh? Ops can sometimes go wrong,.., well that was my thinking)  He refused to speak to me, and naturally I didn't force the issue.

Anyway, he looked well and happy (before he saw me).  That'll have to do.

It's a pity, Dex,  but I suppose he's a grown man and entitled to make his own choices as much as we are.

[dextrous63]

Yep Mups.  Estrangement is sadly more common than one might actually think.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202402/statistics-that-tell-the-story-of-family-estrangement

[Raven]

It is, sorry your caught up in it too Dex. My sister who is nearest to me in age stopped speaking to me 15 years ago. I have no idea why, we didn't row she just pulled further n further away. When mum passed a few years ago she came to the funeral, sat at the opposite side from me and left straight afterwards. I spoke to my other sisters who were angry about her leaving but neither of them could tell me why she's treating me like this.
I no longer bother with her when I go to Perth, where before I'd have spent some time with her.

[dextrous63]

Sorry to hear that Raven.  At least we kinda understand why my son made his choice.  But not knowing why, that's hard for you.😳

[Scrumpy]

Beautiful day.. I have been out in the front garden.. All sorted..

Dextrous..  You know where your son is.. and you probably know why he has decided to isolate himself..
It could be worse.. He could be living somewhere abroad  .. At least you know he is safe.. 

[Raven]

Well the washings out, whether it dries is another thing entirely.

[klondike]

Walked to the gym. Went through the program I was set. Showers are crap so that will be the last time in them. Walked home. Parked my backside. Now I'm nodding off. 

[GrannyMac]

Sorry to hear that Raven.  At least we kinda understand why my son made his choice.  But not knowing why, that's hard for you.😳

I think any family member who removes themselves from their families must hurt the people who love them.  My father's family was fractured, he and his only sister had no relationship, nor did they seem to with their father. My dad never spoke about it, and he died when i was a teenager so I never knew why. Sad.

[dextrous63]

My father left Poland after the war, apparently down to some family dispute.  Contact only resumed some 30 or so years later when my siblings decided to do a fact finding trip to Poland, and discovered a sizeable family over there.

[GrannyMac]

I have never met a relative of my father's.  It's possible that's what sparked my interest in family history.

[Mups]

I think any family member who removes themselves from their families must hurt the people who love them.  My father's family was fractured, he and his only sister had no relationship, nor did they seem to with their father. My dad never spoke about it, and he died when i was a teenager so I never knew why. Sad.

I often think they themselves, are hurting too.  
 That is often why they go.

[dextrous63]

I often think they themselves, are hurting too. 
 That is often why they go.

Quite👍

On a sort of related subject, I sometimes listen to a (free) forgiveness hypnosis/affirmation video on youtube.  After the usual relaxation start, it goes on to affirmations aimed at forgiving yourself, and then moved onto forgiving others.  Makes sense to me...you'll stop lashing out when you've stopped beating yourself up,

Wish I'd come across this recording ages ago.

[GrannyMac]

Sounds helpful. I know hypnotherapy can really help with one's thinking. Good on you dex for trying to make some sense of things.  

[Scrumpy]

No sun.. but not chilly..
I have my lippy on... will go for my walk soon.. Might pop into the Co-op..

[Mups]

No sun.. but not chilly..
I have my lippy on... will go for my walk soon.. Might pop into the Co-op..

Same here.  Quite mild, but grey and dismal.

Just finished some paperwork,  and now, if my poorly arm will allow, I want to see if I can get the grass its last cut before more rain comes. 

After that -  no plans,  so who knows.