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Title: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 06, 2022, 04:58:27 PM
It was mentioned by Sheila on another thread how, since covid, she is lacking confidence in what she does and where she goes..
I too am not as confident as I once was.. I now find that I think hard before going anywhere..My friends are the same.. we often speak of it..
I am off to Lincoln at the end of the month and Devon a little later.. This is something I would be doing without a second thought.. But not so now..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: klondike on March 06, 2022, 05:29:49 PM
The problem is you have no idea what the effect may be should you catch it and there is still plenty about. My son just phoned he tested positive today. He is a bit sniffly with a tickly throat. I was out all day fishing with him yesterday in his cramped boat including 30 miles each way in a car. I've just tested negative but may test positive in a day or so.

So should I have been reluctant to go out? No. If you lock yourself away and do nothing you may as well be in your box anyway imo. I've had my 3 jabs and already caught it once. If I get it again I'm expecting mild symptoms. If it should be bad will I regret not locking myself away from the world? 100% no.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 06, 2022, 06:33:10 PM
I do agree with you.. I really do.. I think we must get on with things now..
It's not covid I fear .. I don't think of it when I go out ... It's the rut that I have got into.. It's almost as if I can't be bothered and am 'comfortable' in my space..
It seems to be a common feeling amongst my friends..
I am sure there are others on here who feel the same.


I am pleased that you tested negative..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: klondike on March 06, 2022, 08:01:43 PM
Last time I didn't test positive til several days after meeting with the person who called me to say they had tested positive. I think it was maybe the day after a cough started. My son says he has a "tickly throat". At the moment it's just inconvenient as I won't go to the shops until I'm sure I don't have it.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Jacqueline on March 06, 2022, 10:52:29 PM
Quote from: Scrumpy on March 06, 2022, 06:33:10 PM
I do agree with you.. I really do.. I think we must get on with things now..
It's not covid I fear .. I don't think of it when I go out ... It's the rut that I have got into.. It's almost as if I can't be bothered and am 'comfortable' in my space..
It seems to be a common feeling amongst my friends..
I am sure there are others on here who feel the same.



I am pleased that you tested negative..


Exactly the same Scrumpy.  I couldn't stay home for five minutes I was always out, but not been on a bus since Covid began, don't go out half as much now and tend to wear and wash the same few clothes.    But I have done something brave today, booked a hotel for the night before my sister in laws wedding, I haven't seem her for so long.

Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Michael Rolls on March 07, 2022, 05:08:11 AM
Much the same with me - avoiding going places where there are people, haven't set foot in a pub nor café since all this began.
Mike
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: GrannyMac on March 07, 2022, 07:02:44 AM
I've been going to the leisure centre several times a week, and helping in the charity shop for a while now. Ate out on Saturday  and I'm away at the moment at a lovely spa for a couple of days.

Life's too short not too (for me anyway) especially at the moment.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 08:04:35 AM



I am going away to Lincoln at the end of the month.. I went to Devon last year and will do the same again this year..
What I am saying is.. I have lost something.. My 'excited'.. 'looking forward to ' feeling seems to have gone..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Diasi on March 07, 2022, 08:16:17 AM
Quote from: Scrumpy on March 06, 2022, 04:58:27 PM

I am off to Lincoln at the end of the month.

Oh no! Not to 'smelly Skelly' I hope.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Sheila on March 07, 2022, 08:28:13 AM
Seven of us who all used to work together used to meet up for lunch every few weeks and have been good friends for many years.  We met up last year at an open air cafe but have got out of the habit of meeting.


I took the bull by the horns and 'whatsapped' them asking if anyone would like to join me for lunch at the local pub.  Four of us are free tomorrow and are meeting up so I am really looking forward to it.  It's a start and hopefully we can find a date when all seven can meet up.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 08:33:57 AM
Quote from: Diasi on March 07, 2022, 08:16:17 AM
Oh no! Not to 'smelly Skelly' I hope.


:grin: :grin: :grin:
No... We are going to Woodhall Spar..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 08:35:42 AM



Enjoy  your day tomorrow Sheila..  You are doing well.. x
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Sheila on March 07, 2022, 08:40:18 AM
Thank you Scrumpy.  We used to visit Lincoln a couple of times a year as Paul has family there but haven't been since this bloody virus started.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Raven on March 07, 2022, 08:52:08 AM
Life for me has changed a lot, I used to go out a lot more places before Covid and apart from going to my home in Perth I hardly meet up with anyone for any reason. The only normal thing is the pool and then I stay on my own as much as possible. I don't get involved in chatting groups at the end of the pool, I stay as far away as I can and keep swimming, also I won't go into the jacuzzi if anyone else is in it. We used to have friends over at least every 2 weeks on a Sunday Afternoon during the summer, we had lunch outside and a good old gossip. Dunc was saying the other day that we must try to get things back to the way they used to be. I also used to drive down to Inverness at least once a month for a mooch around the town and a pub lunch. It's been 2 years since that happened.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Diasi on March 07, 2022, 09:22:09 AM
Quote from: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 08:33:57 AM

:grin: :grin: :grin:
No... We are going to Woodhall Spar.

That's a nice area.

When I used to go to Boston I'd sometimes go via Woodhall Spa.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 10:15:25 AM



We have family there... I am staying at The Inn.. I know once I arrive all will be well.. It's just the thought of going somewhere ..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: GrannyMac on March 07, 2022, 12:53:46 PM
Enjoy the break Scrumpy, and enjoy your get together Sheila.

I'm lounging in a sunny spot before lunch, after a massage.  I could live here!  If I win the lottery.... :grin:
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: crabbyob on March 08, 2022, 12:39:26 PM
Quote from: Scrumpy on March 07, 2022, 10:15:25 AM


We have family there... I am staying at The Inn.. I know once I arrive all will be well.. It's just the thought of going somewhere ..
i have written all that down, if you see a devilishly handsome chap lurking, dont approach him...lol...


yes my confdence has really taken a few knocks... its years since i visited a pub or club, tho where i eat in Goa is basically a pub that serves food...
i have to drive down to Birminham next week for a visa interview and i am bricking it... i know i will go, but i am not looking forward to entering Birmingham and all that mayhem...
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 08, 2022, 01:06:10 PM



You will be fine crabbyob.. My journey to Lincoln will take around 3-4 hours.. I am not too keen.. and I'm not even driving..!!
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: crabbyob on March 08, 2022, 04:11:02 PM
if you have the time call into Lincoln Cathedral and borrow The Magna Charter for me.. magna carta?
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Raven on March 08, 2022, 04:17:53 PM
I don't mind the long drives it's a five n a half hour drive from the farm down to Perth. I much prefer to know where I'm going though, but the Sat Nav has never let me down on new roads.
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: Scrumpy on March 08, 2022, 04:39:18 PM
crabbyob.. I'm on it...  :cool:
Lincoln Cathedral is beautiful..
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: klondike on March 08, 2022, 04:47:36 PM
Quote from: crabbyob on March 08, 2022, 04:11:02 PM
borrow The Magna Charter for me.. magna carta?

You can get them most places crabbyob

(https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/5/5a/Magnum_ice_cream.jpg)
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: crabbyob on March 09, 2022, 08:46:52 AM
yes K, even in goa, but you have to eat it quickly..
i buy the immitation ones from Morrisons... cheapo , i know
Title: Re: Lacking confidence...
Post by: klondike on March 09, 2022, 09:03:45 AM
Not as cheapo as me. Mine come from Lidl  :grin: