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Title: Any advice?
Post by: Sheila on August 04, 2022, 12:30:18 PM
We get on very well with our lovely neighbours, except for the couple next door.  For instance when I told her we were getting a new kitchen she replied 'oh we don't need a new kitchen because we  look after ours'!  Her garden is better than ours, her blinds are better than ours (according to her).  Relations are not genuinely friendly, unlike those with the rest of the neighbours.

They are both deaf but like music in the garden, so they leave the patio door open and put it on full blast.  That is annoying but yesterday they sat in the garden with a dreadful play on the radio.  There was plenty of shouting and awful music in the play and I was trying to sit quietly and read my book.  I was too annoyed to say anything to them as I could have ended up being a bit nasty.  I don't usually swear but ended up telling Paul what I thought of them and at least it made him laugh.

Any advice as to how I can get them to be a bit more thoughtful?
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: GrannyMac on August 04, 2022, 12:41:20 PM
Neighbours like that don't change. The 'my house, my garden, I'll do what I like' types are a scourge!

You could of course play some thrash metal or loud rap next time they decide to share their noise with the neighbours..... :wink:
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Sheila on August 04, 2022, 12:49:50 PM
I'm ashamed to admit that I did that once.  The noise coming from their house was horrendous so I put Bohemian Rhapsody on full blast right next to their wall.
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Scrumpy on August 04, 2022, 01:06:32 PM

I love Bohemian Rhapsody..  The louder the better..  :grin:

Sheila.. Don't do anything love..  You could make it much worse.. If you are unfortunate to have a bad neighbour ..  avoid them as much as you can.. 
 Swear at Paul..  He will love this new exciting woman in his life...  :wink:
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Alex on August 04, 2022, 03:33:37 PM
Are they new neighbours Sheila  ?
You could of course try ' creeping '  :grin:  :grin:  Give then some apples from your garden, or the bottle of red wine that you were "given" but you only drink white.    :yay:  getting them on-side would make it easier for you to politely ask for the music to be tuned down.  Failing that, you'll just have to come inside and bang the door - which they wouldn't hear if they're deaf, but it would make you feel better.

Hope things improve for you as the weather seems to be getting better in our neck of the woods. :upvote:   
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Sheila on August 04, 2022, 04:00:51 PM
Nearly 30 b''''y years Alex!

We were at a party once and our friends brought a man to us and said 'guess who these two live next door to?'.  When the man discovered who it was he said 'you poor buggers'.
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Michael Rolls on August 04, 2022, 06:34:18 PM
had a similar problem many years ago. Back then I had a reel-to-reel tape recorder. Prepared a loop of an extract from the 1812 overture - the really noisy bit with cannons etc., left it playing full blast and went for a drive - they took the hint
Mike
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Alex on August 04, 2022, 10:11:35 PM
Quote from: Sheila on August 04, 2022, 04:00:51 PMNearly 30 b''''y years Alex!

We were at a party once and our friends brought a man to us and said 'guess who these two live next door to?'.  When the man discovered who it was he said 'you poor buggers'.

Oh dear, I guess a few apples won't work then.   :boo:
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Scrumpy on August 05, 2022, 08:17:27 AM

Let it go Sheila.. At least you know what you are up against..
.. and you are speaking.. 
Nothing worse than neighbours you 'Don't talk' to.. That can become nasty.. 

Just don't invite her in for coffee.. 
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Sheila on August 05, 2022, 08:38:26 AM
You're right Scrumpy but I was so annoyed the other day when my peaceful read in the garden was destroyed.  I would have taken my book over the road to a neighbour but the people next door to her have gone away while a huge noisy and messy job is being done on their house so she was seething too!  

I suppose we should have taken ourselves off somewhere peaceful.
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Scrumpy on August 05, 2022, 08:46:45 AM

Most of us have work carried out on our homes over the years.. Sometimes it can be noisy.. We should accept that.. After all it could be the work on OUR houses that is noisy.. 
Life is too short to worry about a bit of banging about.. 
Perhaps I am a bit too laid back.. Maybe.. But I have really good neighbours.. all round..
And they will drop all to help me..
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Ashy on August 05, 2022, 08:49:54 AM
Quote from: Sheila on August 04, 2022, 12:30:18 PMAny advice as to how I can get them to be a bit more thoughtful?
You need a young nephew who is learning to play the trumpet.
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Raven on August 05, 2022, 09:35:44 AM
Or a teenager learning drums in the garden shed. :yell:
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Diasi on August 05, 2022, 11:03:50 AM
Quote from: Sheila on August 05, 2022, 08:38:26 AMYou're right Scrumpy but I was so annoyed the other day when my peaceful read in the garden was destroyed.  I would have taken my book over the road to a neighbour but the people next door to her have gone away while a huge noisy and messy job is being done on their house so she was seething too! 

I suppose we should have taken ourselves off somewhere peaceful.

I'm beginning to wonder where the problem with your neighbours lies.

Maybe you should relocate to the Highlands.

We've got a new housing development being built across the road so we get the constant noise from that all day 5 days a week.

But other people had the same noise when our development was being built.
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: Sheila on August 05, 2022, 12:02:24 PM
They are having some very noisy work done on their house at the moment but I am not moaning about that even though some of the mess is on our path and has blown in through our windows.

He brought a radio out into the garden and played it very loudly on the other side of the fence and that is what I object to.

Are you in The Highlands?  I think that is maybe not for me!  :grin:
Title: Re: Any advice?
Post by: GrannyMac on August 05, 2022, 01:13:28 PM
I don't mind that next door is having a new bathroom, or builders across the road are cuutting stone. Neither do I mind lawnmowers.  All noisy, but necessary. Having a radio on outside so neighbours can hear it, or playing music loudly are not necessary, and are extremely selfish.

We have a small garden, backed by terrace houses with even smaller yards.  Most of the time its peaceful. A youngish couple sometimes have friends round, and I hear children playing a couple of doors down, and in the yard behind. Fortunately none are screechers, because their parents don't allow it.